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Have you heard of the saying, “There’s no point in crying over spilled milk?”.


Spilled milk is spilled milk.


To clean it up and not give it another thought does not mean that you didn’t acknowledge that your money in purchasing the milk and time in cleaning it up was wasted.


You did – but what good would it have done you to flail your arms up in the air and whined while you cleaned it up?


It would have done you no good and instead, might have raised your blood pressure, stress levels and conditioned you to reaction the same way the next time something doesn’t go as you expect it to


Changing your perspective takes a little mix of brain and will power to get you through the mental roadblocks that life places in your way. Your brains help you interpret the world around you, formulate feelings and perceptions. Your brains is powerful and you can use that power to re-wire yourself to change for the better.


With your handy sidekick, Brain, you can shift your perspective by doing the following:


1. Choose Good Over Evil

When we fall down we have the choice to stay down or get up. When things just aren’t going our way, we can either complain all day, week, and month about it or we can see it for what it is and let it go. You have the choice to decide how you’re going to view everything that happens to you and around you. Are you going to choose the good and stay positive or are you going to soak in the bad and be miserable? The choice is yours.


2. Meditate

Meditation can help you shift your perspective but research has shown that it can also improve your brain health, reduce stress, improve concentration and personal balance. Recent research using MRI brain scans of individuals who meditate have found that meditation strengthens the brain by reinforcing connections between the brain cells. They’ve also shown that experienced long-term meditation practitioners had increased grey matter, which is responsible for processing information. When you are able to process information better and with a clear mind – it’s easier to handle stressful times. When you practice mindful meditation you start to become more aware of your negative thought patterns and with time you can begin to accept them and not let them have power over your actions.

3. Live Mindfully

Living mindfully is separate from practicing mediation. To live mindful is to be aware of your present moment at all times. When you are mindful you are aware of your thoughts, your speech, your body language, your behaviors and actions. Once you open yourself up to living mindfully you let go of things that may be holding you back like anger, resentments, and expectations. Mindfulness can bring you the much-needed peace to help you change your perspective and feel grounded in life.

4. Give To Others

Get into the habit of offering assistance to others and asking what you can do rather than what someone can do for you. This is a great tool for practicing humility as it allows you to do things for others without receiving anything. Try to do one thing for someone else every day. The goal is to step out of your shoes and into the shoes of another. You might find yourself more thankful to the other person in helping them than you would if the roles were switched.

5. Be Grateful

There’s nothing more beautiful than the act of gratitude. If your house is burning down before your eyes, can you look around and find things to be grateful for? Your family got out unharmed, your neighbors took you in no questions asked, your insurance will cover the damages, your employer has given you a week off to get things in order, etc. Life is full of surprises – happiness, triumph, sadness and setbacks but through the good and bad there will always be something that we can be grateful for; whether we realize it sooner than later is a matter of our personal perspective.



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